Tulpa.info - tulpa-questions

It makes me feel better, like he’s there

6:07 PM

Also removes a great deal of skepticism

That's good

My tulpa just sat on the couch, haha (edited)

6:21 PM

Err... My term for coming to the front of the mind. Sorry for confusion. But it's been awhile since she was there

I'm gonna assume that the only way to remember to commentate/narrate to my tulpa is just through repetition? Because I keep forgetting to (edited)

You can use things to help you remember. A watch that chimes on the hour, or a string on your finger.

Would that really help? I sit for hours on end playing games, and getting a notification or something once in a while wouldn't really help to remember to, as I'd forget after maybe one or 2 times

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There are plenty of different reminders you could use. Some people go for accessories that they wouldn't normally wear so that they're almost always aware of them.

?

Put a sticky note on the corner of your screen so that it's a minor inconvenience but stands out enough to help you remember while playing games.

Beyond that even, when I do remember I don't even know what to say

If you're playing games all the time it should be pretty easy to just say what's happening on those. It'll feel more natural the more you do it.

I guess

1:35 AM

Don't completely see "I'm gonna shoot this guy in the face" seeming natural but I guess it will overtime (edited)

1:36 AM

Music is definitely gonna be the easiest way for me to connect with my tulpa

Music is a reasonable thing to enjoy together

I mean like "playing Bb blues, how am I gonna do this solo"

1:48 AM

Because I play sax

Why is it so easy to commentate and debate with myself but now that I'm messing around with this tulpa stuff it's impossible to actively do it

it's not

3:13 AM

i promise you you're thinking about it too much

3:13 AM

and the more you tell yourself you're having a hard time the harder you'll make it for yourself

Then what do I do?

just talk to your tulpa

3:16 AM

literally read Wikipedia out loud to them or play music to or for them

I try to play music to/for them, but I just forget about it midway through the song

3:18 AM

The first day worth of time trying to intereact with her felt productive and useful, but now it just feels like it's being blocked by something

things take time

3:18 AM

you'll just have to get used to it, push past it, and keep trying

But i feel like I just forget about them altogether, and let the small amount of life there be destroyed unknowingly

nah

3:22 AM

it literally just takes time and effort

3:22 AM

and a lot of both

3:22 AM

you're thinking and worrying about it too much

But if I forget them then there's nothing I can do

some people are faster some people are slower

3:23 AM

i promise you if you stop worrying as much you'll feel better about it

How do I just stop worrying though

idk man

3:26 AM

don't know you super well

i can't help either

3:27 AM

i'm an anxious mess

How would anyone "just stop worrying"

3:28 AM

Because you can't explain how to "stop worrying"

It's not something that's going to happen immediately.

I know, but now it feels impossible to make progress

3:33 AM

At first it seemed achievable to actually do this, but immediately after there's literally nothing

Make a reminder if you're that worried

3:34 AM

People already mentioned wearing something

3:34 AM

Literally put like a rubber band around your wrist

But if I can't think of a single thing to say to her, what's the point of remembering

Then say 'I don't know what to say'

3:35 AM

Literally anything goes

Really? Saying "I don't know what to say" 20 times a day is gonna do something?

Hey, you're interacting

3:36 AM

It's better than nothing at all

yes

this

that's what everyone has been trying to say

3:36 AM

Literally anything to get your started

i make all my friends by calling them

3:36 AM

and saying their name

worry about substance later

and then following it up with "i don't know"

3:37 AM

and look at me now

3:37 AM

~~i have no friends!~~

I still don't understand how "i don't know what to say" will get me anywhere

But seriously little interaction is better than nothing

i have some friends actually

Tulpas grow on interaction and care

3:38 AM

Substance can come in later

^again, what everyone has been saying

I'm just having trouble understanding how saying what is quite literally nothing counts for something

It's only nothing if you think it's nothing

3:41 AM

Even if it's close to nothing, enough of it will amount to something

It becomes a routine in your mind, you're building habits.

it gets you into the habit of talking to them. Of assuming they're there. Hopefully of listening for a response.

I was told not to expect a response tho

Listening != expecting

Really?

yes

3:47 AM

you'll get one eventually

3:47 AM

that's sort of the point

3:47 AM

if you just keep talking and never think or expect that at some point your tulpa will talk back, they probably never will

I get this canned response when I ask questions

3:53 AM

Like 5 questions in a row "yes, yes, yes" (edited)

3:54 AM

Even if they contradict eachother

3:54 AM

Like if I repeat it back with a "not" added

Maybe that means they're just not developed enough to fully grasp the question

3:59 AM

Don't hold a brand new tulpa to too high of a standard

3:59 AM

it'll improve as time goes on

But what's the point of asking a question then

Your mind will fill in the blanks if you ask it a question and expect an answer, so it's no surprise that it's contradictory.

It happens midway through the question too

Sure, the expectation might be cutting that short.

The only questions I can ever think of are along the lines of "do you like this song" while I'm listening to music

4:05 AM

Literally nothing else ever comes to mind